This month, I visited my publisher’s One True Pairing podcast to talk about one of my favorite celebrity couples, John Legend and Chrissy Teigen. We played a little game called “Take the LEEEgend,” a play on John’s name and the title of the first book in my Dance Off series. I had a great time recording with Marissa and Erica. Also, congrats to John and Chrissy on the birth of their baby boy! You can listen to the full podcast here.
On December 9, 2015, after a week of listening to the Original Cast Recording of Hamilton non-stop, I went to the in-person lottery on a Wednesday at noon and won. I wrote this post in January, so I’m making H for Hamilton and finally hitting publish.
While the recording gives an accurate portrayal of what the show sounds like, there are a few aspects that are ten times more powerful on stage. Here are a few examples, in no particular order: Continue reading
Last year I was given a great piece of writing advice: “Don’t be so precious with your process.” How much time do we spend talking about the right or wrong chair, desk, noise level, playlist, snack, etc? There’s something to be said for having a chair and keyboard that don’t cause you pain, but while we might have some kind of “ideal work environment” in mind, how likely is it to have that all the time?
Last summer I managed to get away from NYC a few times to what I thought would be close to an ideal writing environment: Smalltown Connecticut, sunroom with a view, no responsibility, limited cell service. And you know what? I was so distracted! I couldn’t stop watching all the crazy birds and animals in the yard. I got too hot in the middle of the day, then too cold when the sun went down. The pull of fun outdoorsy things was strong (bike rides and tubing down the river), as was watching romantic comedies on TV with a grandma. I managed to get work done, but it was usually at night, hunched over my netbook on the camp bed.
The ideal writing environment is a myth, at least for me. As much as I like to tell myself I’d get a ton of writing done in a remote cabin somewhere, probably I’d just nap the whole time and be worried about crazy people in the woods. Continue reading
In February, while planning a huge plot overhaul on a WIP, I started to feel antsy. Restless. I wanted the novel finished yesterday. I described it as “feeling impatient with myself,” but a well-timed Twitter chat with Amy Oscar nailed the feeling as anxiety.
“Share your strengths, not your weaknesses.”
This brought up a memory from June. Last month I had some overlap between work gigs, and I felt overwhelmed and exhausted. I went out for a friend’s birthday, and I saw another friend I hadn’t seen for a little while. She asked how everything was going, and I answered honestly that it was hard for me to approach that question without complaining, which I didn’t want to do. She didn’t push, and we eased into the conversation from a different angle. I felt good about being honest (and not giving more energy to the complaints), and she was probably glad I didn’t bombard her with my frustrations.
It’s not about being in denial. It’s about giving attention to what really matters.
This week I’m reading Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life by Anne Lamott. I have to share this gem from the section on dialogue:
“You write a sh**ty first draft of it and you sound it out, and you leave in those lines that ring true and take out the rest. I wish there were an easier, softer way, a shortcut, but this is the nature of most good writing: that you find out things as you go along. Then you go back and rewrite. Remember: no one is reading your first drafts.”
You can’t edit a blank page. And unlike real life, the lives and worlds we create with our words can be revised, edited, even completely rewritten. That’s part of the creative process. The biggest part, actually. A coworker once told me, “Writing is 10% first draft and 90% revision.” He probably got it from somewhere else, but 10 years later I still remember him sharing that in the break room, so I attribute it to him.
This morning I read a passage in The War of Art by Steven Pressfield that I found helpful for where I am in my writing process. (I’m revising, and this week it feels especially daunting.)
“[A pro] understands that all creative endeavor is holy, but she doesn’t dwell on it. She knows if she thinks about that too much, it will paralyze her. So she concentrates on technique.”
Wearing my metaphorical photographer hat
Sometimes I think being well-rounded is overrated.
I’m a member of the “gig economy,” which basically means I’m self-employed and have a lot of different jobs. But wearing so many hats gets exhausting after a while. I attended a networking event this week and had no idea how to introduce myself. Normally I don’t mind the “What do you do?” question at all, but this time I felt scattered. My friend asked what I wanted to network for, and I didn’t know. And when I pulled out one of my old business cards, I realized I definitely needed new ones. This of course leads to the next question: What exactly do I include on them? (Creative Consultant? Group Facilitator? Private tutor? Graphic designer? Illustrator? Photographer? Writer? Personal organizer? Personal assistant? Social media manager? Babysitter?)
2012 Meditation flash mob in Union Square, NYC
When I met Deepak Chopra last year, I got to ask him one question. I asked: “As a creative person who feels pulled between so many projects, how do I make progress on them?” He replied:
“Focus on the one most important thing…for now.”
