“Share your strengths, not your weaknesses.”

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“Share your strengths, not your weaknesses.”

I got this phrase on a Yogi Tea tab last week, and it got me thinking: obviously we don’t want to share our¬†weaknesses, right? But let’s break it down. There’s more than one way to look at this statement, and it’s not so obvious.

How do you share in words?

1. How do you share yourself (or your life experiences) with others? In conversation (or status updates), do you complain about work, your health, your partner? Or do you share what’s going right in your life, what lights you up and makes you come alive?

This brought up a memory from June. Last month I had some overlap between work gigs, and I felt overwhelmed and exhausted. I went out for a friend’s birthday, and I saw another friend I hadn’t seen for a little while. She asked how everything was going, and I answered honestly that it was hard for me to approach that question without complaining, which I didn’t want to do. She didn’t push, and we eased into the conversation from a different angle. I felt good about being honest (and not giving more energy to the complaints), and she was probably glad I didn’t bombard her with my frustrations.

It’s not about being in denial. It’s about giving attention to what really matters.

 

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